Identity Crisis

Recently, Usher released a new song called “Hot Toddy” that explores a sexual escapade between him and an elusive woman. He wants a “Hot Toddy” to explore, sex up, and, as long as they don’t get caught, “cheat” with.

Today, I had 4 Facebook friends who changed their screen names to “first name hottoddy last name” or “Ms. hot toddy last name”.

I realized that there is a trend among a number of women (and men) who change their identities with the change in lyrical “genius” that rocks our radio stations.

Whether you’re changing your name to Jessie numberonestunnawhosmacksahoe Williams or Sheka imthebaddestbitch Jones, there’s something to be said to those who constantly change their names to match a word, phrase, or title.

Taking on the name of a “hot toddy” may be cute, trendy, or just for kicks…but consider what Usher says:

we freaking this ain’t cheating as long as we don’t tell nobody…
…I see you like it tough,
I hear you baby
claiming you a bad b-tch
show me baby
I’m a wild boy you tryna tame me baby
the way I get it from the house
can you keep me faithful
got a lot of girls
got a lot of flava
thats why when I hit em they want me to return the favor

So, if I become Alisha “Hot Toddy” Gordon, I’m letting everyone know that I am Alisha “will cheat on/with someone, I’ll do anything sexually to keep a man who doesn’t belong to me, and I’m okay with him being around a number of women who he will possibly sleep with if I don’t do these things” Gordon

Nah, son. I’m good.

Now, I aint judging. I think the song is hot, and I’ll be adding it to my iTunes play list soon. But we need to be mindful when we take on names and titles created by others. That name and title speaks louder than the speakers the music bumps from.


On the Chase,

Alisha L.

5 thoughts on “Identity Crisis

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  2. Rabiyya Smith says:

    Hey Alisha,

    Love the blog post! I think you make some interesting points, but I also think that more women are aware of th names that they “don” than you think. If after listening to the sexually explicit lyrics of Usher’s “Hot Toddy” song, I decide to rename myself Rabiyya “Hot Toddy” Smith; it’s not because the beat is hot, but because I was able to relate to the lyrics!


    • Alisha L. Gordon says:

      You have a point. I think they know exactly what the words imply and they’re okay with being lumped into that description… and the “relatablity” of the lyrics speaks to something above and beyond than a simple beat. Very true!

  3. Maurice J says:

    You know Alisha, its funny that this was on your mind today. I was taking my wife to work yesterday and we were listening to 95.5 and Katy Perry was playing. Dont know much about her, but the new song she has is very light and fun. Then I turn to V103 and we hear like 5 songs in a row that is talking about nothin but sex and crime. Wassup with that??? Im like dang, the only thing Black people like is sex and crime?? Now that goes to your subject in the sense that Black people need to think more. We don’t THINK. And I mean in the simplest sence of critical thinking. And with all these new smart phones, Google and iPads, its making us less inclined to think. We need to think about how the things we see and hear affect our view of life and the world. Is that the view God really wants us to have?? Especially for the ones who, like u said change thier names on FB with the songs… And at the same time claim to be Christian. Is that truly the self image (and therefore God’s image since He made us in His image) that represents the kingdom, 1st name “Imdabaddest b*tchandhisnumbaone” Last Name???

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